Treasure vs Torture

By now, most of the people I see or associate with are in a relationship of some sorts. Whether that be dating, in a serious relationship, engaged, married, etc., they most all have a significant other. Which means that a lot of times that tends to be the topic of choice in conversation; however, sadly, most of what I hear is discouraging. 

All too often I see and hear friends (and enemies) complaining most about those they should compliment. -- Don't get me wrong, your significant other isn't always going to be a ray of sunshine. There will be fights, arguments, and disagreements. 

But where do you draw the line? 

Where does it become too much? 

When does this person you treasure become a form of torture? 

An example for the fellas: I know a couple. They've been together quite a while. However, there is no balance in their relationship. It is all take and no give. A hard working man works day and night to provide; a woman spends greedily. A man loves and comforts, doing his best; a woman takes, demands, and expects her share with no input to the relationship. What's my point? Stop allowing yourself to be tortured by someone who claims to love you. Love is not a body. Love is not sex. Love is commitment. Love is work. -- Love is a team. And let it be known, that is not team of more than 2. Why do you wonder why there is no more effort put into you? Why do you allow her demands to run your life, and get nothing out of it? Why do you let her control every aspect of your life, and then wonder why you spend your days and nights alone and unhappy, while she is out with her friends doing whatever she pleases? If your woman shows more respect for men at the supermarket than you, maybe it's time to weedeat the relationship and exam where standards are and what you expect out of this person that you desire to be your spouse.

And for the ladies: I know another couple. A girl stays home cooking, cleaning, caring for a child; a man spends his evenings at the bar, letting his eyes wander wherever they please. A girl works hard, studies hard, and seeks to make a better life for her family; a man spends his morning hungover in bed, slurring demands to "his woman." Whats my point? Ladies, please, stop allowing yourself to be used. Stop slaving for a man who shows you no respect. What do you hurt your heart for? Money, love, a 'piece of arm candy'? It is NOT worth it. There is someone for you. Someone who loves you and respects you, and will treat you like the Daughter of the King that you are. Stop settling. 

In all of this, I am just concerned for you all. I hate to see people "fall" so hard, and then hit the ground even harder. 

Please check up on your relationships, people.

Please. 

-- Olivia